I want everyone to read this message and read it very closely as it amplifies the reasoning for my last video.
Most people who pay attention to my content recognize how careful i am with my words and how often i even entertain the feelings of people who benefit from the oppression of marginalized people. My videos are filled with disclaimers and soft language that makes people in majority classes feel welcomed and comfortable. All too often i pander and gently handle people who benefit from the rape, murder and genocide of people. And at the end of the day thats a large reason why my content works. But telling this person that its possible for them to maintain internal biases that they were socialized with that they may unintentionally perpetuate was the last straw.
Let me make this explicitly clear; if you arent open to calling yourself out on your own shit you are not an ally. Your allyship is based in ego and your desire to be seen as a good person. Your allyship helps you and only you. It is not progressive and it is necessary in the maintaining of systems of oppression.
Calling myself out is the most uncomfortable and upsetting thing ive had to in my growing allyship to so many groups. At the center of my arguments is this desire to encourage empathy and care for people who will live lives you will never have. Unfortunately people like this do not care and i think its important for everyone to recognize there are people in our ranks who hold conditional support to out causes. This is why we should not prematurely celebrate people of majority groups who pay lipservice to our cause. No one needs to be celebrated to doing the right thing. As my momma used to say, you dont get a reward for doing what you’re supposed to do. Hold allies accountable. The people who support you will try to understand, the ones who dont will crumble and withdraw support.
Supremacy is easy to maintain, breaking it down is an endless battle and some are unfit for combat.
