You accept it as a normal emotion and use it as a tool for identifying your own fears, insecurities, and weaknesses. You use it as a means to grow, to learn about yourself, to build strengthāboth within yourself and within your relationships.
You read books or blogs about communication in relationships. You talk with your partners. You allow yourself to feel uncomfortable. You give yourself permission to ache.
That shitās tough, but you donāt avoid it. You canāt afford to.
You donāt avoid jealousy.
A little louder for those in the back please.
Jealousy can make you want to do irrational things. Recognize that, think about what you want to do and why. Does it seem unhealthy? Thatās ok. Feel it. Process it. When you feel like you can calmly talk about it, do so.
iām realizing that being burnt out/depressed for me manifests itself as being lazy in weird ways. and itās never hard stuff, itās always things like texting someone back or writing an email, making a call, folding clothes. i can haul myself out of bed and shower and drag myself across the borough to run a choir rehearsal, but i canāt answer a question, wtf.Ā
i think i finally figured this out, and it ties back into theĀ āfunctional depressionā of Black folks that i was talking about the other day
iām pretty sure what happens is that we automatically filter our actions and (subconsciously or otherwise) calculate the consequences. if we can deal with them or they can be easily made up (letting laundry pile up, not answering text messages, not eating/sleeping, etc), then those actions get swallowed by depression, but things that have consequences that canāt be made up or that will add more mental anguish (skipping work/school, not showing up to certain functions, not taking basic care of those entrusted to us), then we funnel all of whatever mental energy we have into that. we let the little things or the things no one else will notice that can be easily covered up or remedied fall away and put whatever we have left after anguish into the top priorities.Ā
and this is (part of) why peace of mind is a luxury when youāre Black.Ā
The long awaited CARE FREE BLACK GIRL VIDEO is hereĀ ! I basically took bits and pieces of videos submitted to me for this and compiled them. I also took pieces of videos Iāve seen on social media that I felt represented āfreenessā and ācarefreenessā this movement is significant to me , and I wanted to make a video to represent what it means to me visuallyšøšøšøšøšøšøšø enjoy š
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this made me emotional lol
I LOVE THIS SO MUCH I THINK IāM GONNA CRY :ā)
This is so good. I’ve been so, so sad. Watching this helped me this morning.
