Month: April 2015
okay I feel like I’m the only person who knows that Mulan was a real person and not talked about enough
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Her story goes mostly how the Disney version went, except she didn’t go to war as a quest for self-discovery or because she felt as though she couldn’t make her parents proud. The sole and only reason she disguised herself as a young man was to take her Father’s place in the war.
So when she told her parents that she wanted to this, they were like wtf no you’re a girl and it’s chaotic out there. And you know what she did? She put on male clothes and challenged her own Father to a duel. Her dad was like ‘who the hell are you’ but accepted. When Mulan won and revealed herself as his daughter, he was like wOAH okay you can go. Basically she made sure to get her parent’s consent before going, so not only are her parents awesome, she was decent enough to not leave them hanging for 12 years.
Yes, she was at war for 12 years, but she not in fact meet a handsome general. Instead she BECAME a general. Eventually the war was won, and the Emperor was so impressed by her he wanted to wed the Princess to her. It was only then that she revealed she was in fact a woman. Then she accepted the rewards and went right back home to her normal life.
There is now even a crater on Venus named after her.
I love that she looks like she’s just chillin. She could be on a bed at home watching TV with the word “CUNT” written across her chest casual-like.
17 times Nicki Minaj expertly shut down sexism
The rest of the quotes — about slut shaming, ownership and being real — are just as incredible.
20 “Soul-Building” Words for the Ones You Love
StandardWhen they need to know how much you love them:
* You make my day better.* You make my life better.
* I love spending time with you.
* Seeing your face makes me happy.
When they need to know you are ALL there:
* I’m listening.
* This time is all yours.
* How can I be a better _____ (parent, friend, spouse) to you?
* Nothing is more important than being with you right now.
When they are stressed or frustrated:
* How can I help?
* Take your time. You don’t have to rush.
* I think you are doing a tremendous job.
* Keep going. You got this.
When they experience failure:
* Be kind to yourself. You are doing the best you can.
* Mistakes mean you are bravely learning and growing.
* It may not be the outcome you hoped for, but I noticed your effort and it was quite remarkable.
* I believe in you.
When they face a challenge:
* I am amazed at how much you are handling right now.
* I am learning a lot from you by watching you do something so challenging.
* This isn’t over—there’s still time to turn this around.
* You are not alone.
The words “I love you” should never be underestimated, but every human being has a few words that make her soul come alive … that bring peace to his uncertain heart … that help them rise when they fall. Discover what those words are by watching—what makes her smile? What motivates him to keep trying? What adds a spring to his step? Commit those soul-building words to memory and say them as often as you can so that one day you are no longer needed to hear them.
This is so important.
My favorite pictures of myself are the ones that forge the reality that I’m out here still fighting for my humanity. Honestly, I’ve been going through a lot lately and I haven’t been in a good head space at all. I deal with suicidal thoughts and depression, and just recently I was sexually assaulted again. I’m actually fucking falling apart and I can’t really ever talk about it out loud. It’s so hard for me to get up in the morning and want to live and keep fighting to survive. Being fat, being Black, being queer, being a woman, and dealing with my mental health is so fucking hard living in this society that marginalizes every part of my existence. I’m tired. And somehow I’ve managed to keep going (which is no easy feat but also there’s no shame in not continuing living this way). I value how activism and protests have helped give me a further purpose in life because I know that I’m fighting for all Black people who deserve to exist and be free and be happy and be praised for their beauty and their amazingness but also probably feel as fucked up or lost/ alone as I do. I appreciate Blackout because it reminds me why I organize and why I get up in the morning… Because we’re all still hurting and we’re still surviving and it’s amazing to see us thrive together and love what white supremacy tells us to hate.
This is so important. Thank you for your words.
