if you and your girl get into a fight, do you punish your girl? just a curious question, I’ve never really seen an answer for this on tumblr when I’ve searched it so I don’t know if that’s part of a healthy BDSM relationship.

sadisticgames:

Punishing your sub in anger is both irresponsible and dangerous.

I will rarely even talk to My girl if I am actually angry. I don’t want to say anything in anger that I would regret later.

I prefer to go for a while and clear My head, think on whatever led to that point, and come back calm and collected to discuss options.

Punishment should be about teaching, correcting, and helping the sub reach closure and alleviating them of any guilt they may feel.

When you punish in anger, it’s about your emotions, not the subs, it’s about the anger that you are feeling, not the subs guilt.

It’s crossing the line out of BDSM and into abuse.

Best advice, don’t get angry, it isn’t worth it.

If you do anyway, walk away until you’ve cooled off.

Don’t hulk out. It just results in damages.