Whenever someone asks me why I don’t have a boyfriend, I’m just going to show them this. Racism and classism (and misogyny and transphobia and internalized homophobia) is so rampant among men in my community.
This is like 99 percent of the white men i’ve ever dated and i’ve dated a lot of white men.
White women are the same way. I can’t count how many times I’ve been told that I “don’t sound black” or that I’m “like, the whitest black person I(they) know.” I’m sick and fucking tired of this shit. I’m light-skinned, but I won’t be your compromise, your half-black go-between. I am not your rebellious phase to piss off your parents.
Sorry, but this is a sore spot for me.
“I usually don’t date black girls, but you’re hot”
That’s because you’re black, but you assimilate well into white society, that way they can say they have a black friend without having actually like black people who don’t act strictly in the way they want.
Because I’m black, I’ll never really ‘assimilate” to white society. I’ll always be a nigga to many white people. i’m just one of the good niggas.
