nudityandnerdery:

ghostofabuttspast:

bidyke:

• It’s based in misogyny
• Bisexuality is associated with women and femininity
• As in “all women are actually bi”
• Bisexuality is a “girls thing”, it’s a thing girls do
• That men are not supposed to
• Male bisexuality is erased because it’s socially unthinkable…

Seriously, I don’t know that I entirely agree with the original post, but artemuscain-gamingandbs, you’re being a complete asshole, with your immediate jump to slurs and misogyny. Yeah, seriously, dude, nice work really proving that OP is wrong when they say that bisexual men don’t talk themselves up while talking shit about bisexual women with these replies. It’s not like you’re “eager to “reclaim” [your] manhood” by trashing a woman with an attack like that.

There are definitely some major reasons for bisexual male erasure- I think OP makes a mistake in talking about erasure of male bisexuality in terms of women, but it’s very true that there are patriarchy issues behind it, because we live in a society that tells us that a dude being even slightly interested in another dude equals TOTALLY GAY, and simultaneously loads us down with a ton of homophobia that tells us that’s wrong and unmanly and piles on all sorts of slurs attached to that. It makes a lot of guys repress that interest- when you talk about how you’ve never met a bi man who (insert example), it’s entirely possible it’s because the men who that largely applies to haven’t felt up to exploring or sharing their bisexuality because our fucking society tells them it’s not okay. 

Masculinity, as posed by our society, is a fucked up, toxic concept, and it’s a really shitty thing to get past. We are told that there are certain roles we are supposed to fit into, and it’s not simple to escape them. You might think you have, but the fact you were so quick to use an ableist, misogynistic insult like that seems like evidence you haven’t gotten past it nearly as much as you’d like to pretend.

Sincerely,
A bisexual man who took a long time to accept and admit to his bisexuality