I love this, it’s so beautiful.
I’m always afraid people will see this and think, see, all that misogynistic treatment has broken her down and now she is traumatized and deeply upset. More often than not, the tears are described by subs as a cathartic release, like receiving the news that a loved one will be cured of disease instead of dying. That is the kind of tears that are usually shed in the case of a crying session. She is not upset, she is letting herself go on a tied of emotion, which ebbs and flows in her, and which was brought to the surface by literally stimulating the surface.
The top’s responsibility is not to tell her,”I’m sorry baby, its ok, please don’t cry ”, it is to tell her, “that’s it baby, let it all out, you cry as hard as you need to”
The top’s responsibility is also to keep a look out for the other kind of crying, and they are expected to know the difference, and act accordingly.
That release is so powerful. What’s even more powerful, is the fact that ANYTIME I’m upset, Sir always tells me that it is safe to cry with him. Whether we are in a scene, or I’ve just had a rough day, Sir makes me safe and loved and not ashamed to let my emotions out. I am so grateful for that.
-kitten
this may be my most favorite post the entire bdsm community has ever produced, commentary and all.
yes.
this is my favourite post of all the D/s posts on tumblr. it is just incredible.
I had to reblog everyone’s posts. This is beautiful and perfect. Very few may understand uppertransversal’s words outside our community. But they don’t need to. I don’t think twice about it. I just simply pity their misunderstanding. They are missing out on perhaps a more rewarding and beautiful relationship than they could ever know otherwise.
I don’t think people outside of the community can quite understand exactly how cathartic this is. This isn’t abuse – this is nurturing.
I think I reblogged this before, but it was a different thread of comments.
