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One of the best/worst things for me is not letting myself reach the edge. Because if I edge I’m almost guaranteed to say “screw it” and let myself go over. But if I don’t edge, that option is suddenly not available to me. Not to mention the edge brings a degree of relief in itself, so, you know, even more frustration! I just. Slowly get more horny. I can just have a pillow between my legs and not even grind against it, and look at porn and stretch my whole body every once in a while, and it’ll just drive me more crazy than anything.

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So, I have a simple game for all you who are into tease and denial and leaving leaving things up to chance.

Next time you’re on the fence about whether or not to have an orgasm, or if you just feel like playing this game by yourself or with your sub every day for a week or a month or however long, flip a coin.

If it lands on heads, sorry (or not sorry), you’re on no touch for the day. If it lands on tails, you get to play as much as you want! But if you do get tails, you have to flip again. Another tails, you get to come that day. If it lands on heads, you don’t. Pretty simple, and incredibly frustrating.

Have fun :3

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Personal post about the dry spell I’m going through below the cut ~

So, I have loooong dry spells, which I define as long periods of time without being physically turned on by anything. And tbh, I fee like the longer the dry spell the more disgruntled and dissatisfied and bored I get. And it’s an issue with me, not with the people around me or the images I’m viewing or anything.

I’m asexual, in the sense that I don’t feel sexual attraction towards other people and am fully repulsed and a bit terrified by the idea of having sex. But I do still experience situational sexual arousal, and have zero qualms with masturbating. When I do feel turned on, it is so intense, especially when it’s in a D/s kind of setting, and I love it. It’s a feeling that’s unmatched by most things. Sometimes, I will go for a while where I get turned on really frequently. Everything seems like an innuendo to me and I’m okay with that. I’ve had periods where I’m inexplicably horny constantly for days at a time, and it’s phenomenal, even if incredibly distracting.

The problem is, I either become desensitized to it after a certain amount of time, or I lose whatever it is that makes me able to get turned on, or I overthink it, or I get scared that people will think I want to have sex with them… I don’t know the reason, just that it just doesn’t happen anymore. When I try to look at porn that would otherwise have me hot and bothered, it does nothing for me. When I masturbate, it is exceedingly disappointing and far too long of a process for it to be worth it. And I want it to be different… But it just isn’t.

I may be asexual, but that doesn’t mean I don’t get frustrated when I have a dry spell. This time last year I was participating in Denial December, but it didn’t even cross my mind to try, because I haven’t even had in interest in orgasms anyways.

I doubt anyone does, but if you have any experience in this area, tips would be greatly appreciated. Otherwise, thanks for listening. I’ll try to get back on my porn game soon.

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I’ve been watching Dexter season 2, and man I really can’t stand Lila. But the sex she and Dexter have? Holy mother of shit. The hand on the throat and the throwing her on the bed and everything kind of really got me going while I was watching it. Normally sex scenes don’t get to me. But it was so violent and she had too much emotion and he had too little emotion and it’s just a sexy work of art really.

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I’m kinda weird… Because I’m really hella gray-asexual, in that I don’t feel sexually attracted to literally anyone (except for one person, ever), but as is evident by my blog, I get incredibly turned on by sexual acts and ideas. Sexual concepts like orgasm control are so hot to me. And bondage is so incredibly alluring.

Coconut Oil

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So everyone knows, coconut oil is just about the best lubricant and/or moisturizer you could ask for. Get the good stuff and rub in on/into your clit and pussy. Then play or have sex or hump a pillow, or just pull up your pants and go about your day and you seriously won’t regret it. It’s amazing. Not sticky in the slightest, really good for your skin, not at all harmful to put inside you, and feels amazing. I’m sure it feels great on dicks too. Leaves you nice and slick and moisturized! And the way it feels is extremely teasing if you you happen to be on orgasm denial. Consider this a PSA. Have fun. <3

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