In bed or out of bed? Either way, the answer to both is basically yes.

We realized a long time ago it’s a little difficult, given our dynamic, to just draw a line and say “here’s vanilla time and here’s kinky time.”

In bed, yes. Sometimes we just “make love” or whatever you want to call it. We can be sweet and cheesy and all that.

Out of bed, totally, we aren’t just doing completely dynamic-centered activities all the time. We like to watch Game of Thrones, Mad Men and Saturday Night Live together; we cook meals together, though he’s admittedly the better cook and I’m the better baker; we like to do “normal” stuff when we’re together like exercising, talking about books, listening to Beyonce, hanging out with friends, etc.