Welcome back! I was wondering where you ran off to. Glad to see you’ve returned to tumblr.

Truth is that I am not always the best with trust. I do try, very often, to try to retain some sort of control or try to get the person in vanilla contexts by being bitchy or something. If I’m letting down a wall in a kinky situation, often I’ll put up a big one outside of the context of that. 

Which is something I am working on, because I am not a perfect person. This blog is more an expression of a journey than a finished product. I don’t have an answer for you and I’m not going to pretend I know how. But, there must be a point where people come to such a sense of peace within themselves that they are at peace with others. I am fast to believe that everything interpersonal has to begin with some intrapersonal component. 

As for getting hurt, it’s a fact of life. Pick the right people, learn from mistakes, develop a thick skin without getting too callous. That right there was a pun I’m pretty damn proud of.

I hope this helped.

<3, Ivy