Why would a Dominant need a safeword?
I’ve been asked to explain why a dominant partner may want/need to use a safeword.
Couldn’t they just, you know, stop? Aren’t they the ones controlling the pace of the scene?
Let’s start with something really simple first. I’ve got myself a play partner that loves to play fight back, sometimes I left them roll me off them, straddle me, and act like they’re winning.
Say I get a muscle spasm and in their exuberance they’re not picking up that I’m actually in pain and try rolling me.
Well, that’s one reason I may want to shout RED and let them know, hey, something’s wrong, stop.
Let’s go further. There is no shortage of brats here. They like to tease, to goad, poke fun. Let’s say though, that I have a bad wave of anxiety hit me, and we’ve been teasing back and forth all day.
I’d like a clear, no harm no foul, way to communicate that the jabs need to stop, now, until I straighten my head out.
I could go on, but I don’t have to. The reality is, you need to validate the use of a safe word.
I don’t care who you are, what role, or why you’re using it.
Not respecting someone’s use of a safe word is simply abuse/rape.
It’s the removal of consent, don’t you dare ignore it.
